so have i done many references myself but you have the burden of proof to prove that is what was actually said, the story gets twisted when you have a third party telling things to you. It is like the telephone game the message comes out different at the end then what the original person said in the first place. Besides whatever he shared good or bad to prospective employers is supposed to be kept confidential. The applicant is not to know what the reference said and vice versa

my name is tammy wyss and i worked at this hotel for almost a year. i showed up every day i was supposed to i worked double shifts all the time nick and his wife even had me helping there son with his schoolwork while i was on the clock working for the hotel. this man bad mouthed his other employees as well as the guests to me. when i asked for a raise i was told that the hotel didnt make enough money and that we did not work hard enough to get a raise. so i told him that when he changed his mind to call me and i would come back to work and i left. he did not hire me back and i only quit once, yet a couple other girls have been rehired 3 to 4 times, when i applied to other jobs he told the managers that i had a problem with partying with the guests. i have never done that the whole time i worked at any hotel. i loved my job and took it very serious and i have other co workers who will verify that. i dont know what i can do about this but im pretty sure he is not supposed to tell them anything like that. i do not spread lies about him and he should not be doing the same about me thank you tammy wyss [email protected] 573-803-9237

thats what you got out of all that complaint? so lets just ignore the lies he is getting away with telling about his current employees and his past employees as well as the guests! and there was more to my conversation as far as that goes. everybody is entitled to there own opinion but when a reference is being done a manager should no what he can say and what he cant i have also been a manager so i no the rules.